Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

When Did I Become A Naggy Bitch?

I’m not entirely sure when it happened. But I woke up one day and I was a nag. A terrible, annoying nag.

I don’t question if the garbage has been taken out recently, but I cover so many other subjects. I bother the fiancé about his driving, his eating, his (lack of) exercise, his music, his friendships, his (lack of) listening, hell even his bowel movements.

Each single thing can be justified. I swear it can. From conversations I’ve had with the fiancé where he asks for help on a specific thing or we get into a discussion of what’s the “proper” way to do it, there’s always a good reason.

But in the sum total of a day, there’s like over 100 things I fuss or nag about. Who wants to live with that crap? I certainly wouldn’t.

I’m not entirely sure why the fiancé hasn’t cursed me out and dared me to nag about another thing. Probably because he’s a much nicer person than I am. Which, by the way, is another thing I nag about. He’s so nice that he always says the nice thing even if he ends up doing something not so nice. I think it’s better to be honest and not mislead people to think you’re going to be doing something nice when that’s not the final result.

I’m thinking I have to find a way to accept that he just does things differently than how I do. It’s like I feel like I have to get all these behavioral changes in by the wedding, which is only 36 days away now.

I’ve always said that if you go into any long-term relationship thinking that it’s long-term success is based on the other person changing, you’re destined to fail. I just have to wrap my head around the thought that it’s okay if he still goes through an entire bottle of Pine sol in only 6 months. We will just buy more, you know?

I figured if I told on myself on the internet, perhaps I could shame myself into better behavior. I want my man to like me and like being around me. I don’t want him to have to feel like he’s walking on eggshells because I’m watching everything he does, looking for something to be wrong.

Do you have any tips to help me stop being such a nag?

4 responses

  1. silverneurotic

    Naggers unite!

    I HAVE to nag S.D. He needs it, (he told me so actually)…I actually kind of hate it but sometimes it is necessary. Some men need more direction then others.

    January 6, 2012 at 20:54

    • Oh no! Naggers unite sounds so terrible. But I guess you’re right…

      January 6, 2012 at 23:08

  2. Unfortunately, I don’t know that it cam be avoided. A Silver said, I think most men need it. I’ve learned to nag in a very gentle, loving way. *lol*

    January 9, 2012 at 15:06

    • Don’t say that! There has to be a way it can be avoided. I guess I’ll work on being loving and gentle.

      January 12, 2012 at 01:08