Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

Msuic On My Honeymoon

In the spirit of thinking about things that help keep me happy, I want to talk about my honeymoon. At first, our honeymoon was supposed to be in Panama and New Orleans. As a lover of holidays (y’all know how I was about Christmas), I was over the moon with our original plans.

We were going to go to Panama for Carnival (and Valentine’s Day). Then we were going to fly to New Orleans for Mardi Gras. Every time we make plans, something gets changed because of the fiancé’s music.

Since these were major and expensive plans, I made him promise not to take any gigs in the days before all the way up to 12 days after the wedding. We were planning on a long honeymoon so he agreed. I didn’t completely ban music, in fact I asked him to bring his horn with him in case an opportunity to play came up.

But of course, the plans changed. He got an amazing opportunity to be in this contest. This contest is geared towards young jazz musicians in Chicago. One of the people who is pretty important in this group who runs the contest attended one of the fiancé’s gigs. He told him it would be a good idea for him to sign up for this competition.

This competition is a great way to gain recognition as a young jazz musician. It has an amazing first place prize: $10,000.  Also, it was the Wednesday after our honeymoon, when we were supposed to be in Panama.

I had tried to book our honeymoon the day before this came up, but hit a snag. Thank God I did because I was all for switching course. We decided to do the first part of our honeymoon in Chicago and then fly to New Orleans for Mardi Gras as planned.

Technically this contest isn’t a gig, so he didn’t break his promise. It just so happened that after we decided to stay in Chicago, other gig opportunities popped up. We reasoned that we’d already be in downtown Chicago at a great spa hotel, so why not?

The honeymoon isn’t starting the way I expected, but I have to admit that I’m feeling pretty good about starting our marriage off in a way that shows him how much I support his career ambitions. I traded warmth, sun, and sand on our first real vacation for a competition. I think it’s a fair trade because he’s really talented and has a good shot at it.

And hey, if he wins, we’ll still go on a vacation somewhere warm, sunny, and sandy.

6 responses

  1. This was a great compromise. I know you want the vacation you planned, but this opportunity may open more doors. Are you married already?

    January 31, 2012 at 11:51

  2. I think it’ll work out really nice, and well, I don’t think you can go wrong with staying at a spa. Even if it’s in your backyard.

    S.D. and I still haven’t managed to choose a honeymoon. Since I’m virtually doing everything with the wedding planning I told S.D. that he was in charge of the honeymoon. We’ll see how that goes.

    January 31, 2012 at 19:00

    • If he plans it, you’ll have to write a how-to book on how to get one’s fiance to be responsible for a whole section of the planning. I wouldn’t suggest my method (huge blowup followed by apathy). There has to be a better way!

      January 31, 2012 at 20:42

  3. What a great way to start off a marriage with the art of the compromise and unconditional support.

    New Orleans is one of my favorite cities ! Enjoy yourselves.

    February 1, 2012 at 00:14