Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

Being Married Feels The Same

They say when you get married, everything changes. Perhaps it’s still too soon to tell, but everything feels the same. It feels wonderfully the same.

In the week since I got married, I feel like the husband and I are still us. I do get a thrill when I get called Mrs. McBride, but that’s about the extent of it.

How is it supposed to feel different? Is the sex supposed to feel different? Is the random conversation supposed to feel different?

When he holds me in his arms, it just feels like us. When I talk about my husband, I’m just talking about us. When I go with him to a gig, I’m just watching him play his saxophone like always.

I don’t know what’s supposed to feel different. I’m just enjoying how familiar everything feels. If it’s supposed to change, I’m kind of glad it hasn’t yet.

We’re still us and I’m quite happy. As hard as we worked on getting us right in the weeks leading up to our wedding, I’m more than happy to just sit back and enjoy being us.

Are you/Have you been married? Did things feel different after you said “I do?” What change should I look for?

2 responses

  1. silverneurotic

    I think it’s a good thing that things are still the same between the two of you. It means that your love is strong. If things changed, you’d have to wonder why.

    February 17, 2012 at 20:44

    • Possibly, but we’ll see how you feel after your wedding, lol.

      February 25, 2012 at 06:35