Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

Post-Wedding Apathy

Since I love blogging, and I love the husband, I figured blogging about my wedding would be a rewarding and fulfilling experience for me. I was woefully and regrettably wrong wrong wrong.

I have my reasons, you may not agree with them. I’m prepared for lack of agreement, but just know I feel quite strongly about this. Here goes.

Reason #1: My wedding is being f-ing photocopied! Whoever said the highest form of flattery is imitation is an asshole. There is a wedding happening this summer that is my wedding on rinse and repeat. My flowers: orchids, gardenias, roses. This wedding: ditto. My baker, my florist, my freaking dress consultant are all making appearances at this wedding. Even her bridal shower at the end of the month has the same theme. I’ve been told not to blame the bride because her wedding has been hijacked by people with stronger opinions. I’ve been told I should be flattered. I’ve been told that it could all be a coincidence.

All I know is that I’m not flattered. There have been so many weddings held my members of my church in the last three years, and many have been unique and tasteful. So why is mine being carbon copied? We put a lot of thought into our choices and I don’t appreciate someone just jocking my style. Half our wedding vendors aren’t even easy to find. They aren’t located in the city or aren’t big on the internet, which means that the planners of this wedding bypassed the easier finds to go to my vendors. I’ve been having a WTF moment concerning this wedding for like the last 4 months. Oh, did I mention that the bridesmaid dresses look like mine, just slightly darker plus rhinestones?

Reason #2: I’ve lost my love for blogging about my wedding. I can’t bring myself to blog about my wedding. I have several posts written, but I stopped right at the bachelor/bachelorette party. All I have to do is add in pictures from our photographer. I specifically requested the more expensive package so I could have the rights to all these photos and now I’m not even using them. I just don’t feel like it. I don’t know how normal that is, but I just don’t wanna.

Reason #3: There are still items on my to-do list. I still haven’t submitted the photos for our professional album. I still haven’t mailed thank you cards. I just hate that there are still to-do items. We don’t even have on file the addresses for the last minute invitees. The drive to Staples to buy labels to print out and put on already completed thank you notes just feels like too big of a task. I wish someone else would do it.

Reason #4: Thinking about my wedding makes me feel less married. I was so excited once the wedding was over. The husband and I haven’t been together for long, so I felt like the majority of our relationship was consumed by wedding planning. Now that we’re not wedding planning anymore, we’re just us. We’ve had four blissful non-wedding planning months and even thinking about anything wedding related makes me feel like I’m regressing. I suppose that’s why we didn’t even watch our wedding video until our mothers made us on Mother’s Day.

I’m not at all apathetic about my marriage, just my wedding. It was a beautiful day that was this great big party. Everyone had an amazing time and I’m so grateful for what my parents (both sets) made possible for the husband and me. I just don’t want to think about it right now. Or at all for the next 6 months.

Do I suck completely for feeling this way? I imagine couples who’ve been together for years don’t go through this. I don’t want to be ungrateful, I just want to be married and leave my wedding in the past. I remember the tasty food, the endless dancing, the amazing music, and my gorgeous bouquet. All the rest can go poof. For now.

6 responses

  1. Got married,and why was I invited so I can pick up some hot chics at the ceremony?

    June 25, 2012 at 08:10

    • There were untold numbers of singles at our wedding the husband and I met at a wedding, so we were hoping a couple would arise from it. Unfortunately, only some random hook-ups did.

      June 25, 2012 at 09:07

  2. Maybe since this is coming from a guy’s perspective but the hoopla of marriage(wedding)really doesn’t appeal to us,so I can’t even give a fair input as to your apathy.

    June 25, 2012 at 08:12

    • That hasn’t stopped other men from giving me their input. You know what? I appreciate your lack of input. Thank you.

      June 25, 2012 at 09:08

  3. Surviving the Storm - Walking on a Rainbow

    I felt the same way about my wedding that took place 8 years ago. In fact, there are times I still don’t want to put too much thought in to certain aspects. Maybe it was anything that I put a lot of thought and effort in to?
    Oh and we still haven’t watched our wedding video. I really don’t have any interest.
    Occasionally I’ve found myself toying with the idea of putting a scrapbook page together of one of my favourite photos. But eventually that urge passes.

    June 25, 2012 at 11:12

    • I’m so glad to hear you say that. I was feeling like there should be some sort of expiration date on my feelings. It’s hard sometimes just to be comfortable feeling the way I feel.
      Lol @ you scrapbook urges coming and going.

      June 26, 2012 at 18:41