Do You Miss Being Single?
Since the husband reads my blog, I will answer this question before moving on. NO, I DON’T MISS BEING SINGLE.
I just wonder if people do. When people ask how I like being married, I feel so closely watched. It’s like they’re looking to catch me in a lie, or they want to read between the lines. When I respond, “it’s great,” matter-of-factly, that’s never good enough.
It’s even worse when I say, “it’s the same as before we got married.” But it really is. The husband and I decided we were going to get married right around7-8 months from the day we met. It was 3-4 months from when we started exclusively dating. And if I remember correctly, it was either right before or right after we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend.
The way it happened was this: It was Mardi Gras 2011. We were in St. Louis, having an amazing time.
Me: This is so amazing. We have to spend Mardi Gras together next year. I don’t care if it’s in Chicago, St. Louis, or New Orleans. Just promise me we’ll have this much fun together next year.
Him: Of course. I’m mean, hell, we’ll probably be married by then anyway.
Me: Um, that’s like a year away.
Him: I know.
Me: Okay, you’re drunk.
Him: So are you. What’s your point?
Me: You do know that if we are married by Mardi Gras of next year that means we’d need at least 6 months to plan the big ass wedding we’ll unfortunately have to have to accommodate your big ass family. In fact, we may need 9 months. At least. That would mean you’d be proposing by your birthday this year. I don’t think you’re thinking about what you’re saying.
Him: Propose by my birthday. Got it.
Me: You’re drunk.
Him: Yeah, but you know it’s a good idea. This is the plan now. Are we ordering dessert?
That’s basically how it happened. Most of our major relationship decisions have been made while drunk on the holidays. When we met, when we started dating, when we got engaged, etc. And I wouldn’t change anything about it.
So when people ask do I miss being single, hell no I don’t. I haven’t felt like a completely unattached girl for almost five times as long as I’ve been married.
I still do everything I was doing before I got in this relationship. Some things I do more now than before. I think kids will make me miss being single before the husband ever will, ha ha.
I’m just speaking about my experience though. For you people out there who are married, engaged, or heavily attached, do you miss being single?