Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

Stop Calling My Cell

Do you answer phone calls from numbers you don’t recognize? I recently commented on someone else’s blog that I don’t ever delete phone numbers from my phone. I’m not kidding. I have the cell number of a guy I dated one time sophomore year of college.

Other people delete numbers, so when they get calls from unknown numbers, the options are endless. For me, there are only four options.

  1. Bill collector. But my bills are up to date and bill collectors leave voicemails.
  2. Someone’s changed their number. We all have those friends who change numbers as often as a drug dealers do. Usually they mass text that their numbers have changed, but occasionally it’s a phone call.
  3. Someone’s trying to call from a different number. They know you have their number and they know the only way you’ll talk to them is if you don’t recognize the number.
  4. Someone’s phone is dead. If you are special enough to someone these days, they know your number by heart. If their phone dies and they need to talk to you, they’ll call from another phone.

I’ve been getting a series of phone calls recently. I listen to my instincts, and they told me not to pick up these calls. So I didn’t answer.

I figured I’d check the voicemail afterward. Only one call left a voicemail and it was an automated message from an elected official.

Because there was no voicemail, that ruled out #1.

Because the calls were from different numbers, that ruled out #2.

Because days have passed and I haven’t been fussed at for missing someone’s call, that rules out #4.

So we’re left with #3. If someone really is calling me from another number thinking that’s the only way they can talk to me, they’re right. I save numbers of people I don’t want to talk to so I know not to respond, “who is this?” to texts and so I know not to even answer the phone or return the voicemail.

I just wish they’d stop calling. We’ll see if I get another call tomorrow. Leaving a voicemail that’s something other than one breath and then a hang up would be nice as well. I’d like to know who’s calling my from a number I don’t recognize.

Do you ever get calls you don’t want to answer?

8 responses

  1. Mz. Bambi

    Oh yes..I answer because unless I’ve given you my number, there’s no need for any random strays to be dialing it. And if I give you my number and you call me from a number other than the one I have programmed for you, I will be certain to put you on blast when I answer. When I do answer, I am sure to put on the most hood’like tone as if I am irritated at the fact that they are calling unless they’re calling my business line.

    I let no call go unanswered only because I also use my phone for my business (I have a google# that forwards to my actual cell# and it’s programmed under “Lashes”). Other than that -yeah I rather get it out of the way so that we both prevent future calls.

    July 18, 2012 at 08:21

    • I hear you, but I’d rather ignore than respond. I don’t even push the ignore button. I much prefer to make someone feel that I’m behaving as if they don’t exist.

      July 19, 2012 at 21:35

  2. silverneurotic

    My cell phone is my primary phone and since I’m still job hunting, I HAVE to answer every call whether or not the number is familiar. Thankfully the only people who have been calling have been legitimate. A few years back I had a very difficult time with people calling my number that were possible scams…or one baffling incident when some spanish person gave my cell number to a realtor down in FL who then left a few messages in Spanish.

    July 18, 2012 at 09:12

    • Lol, how did you figure out it was a realtor in Florida?

      July 19, 2012 at 21:26

      • silverneurotic

        I answered the phone and asked him! He was quite persistent in calling so eventually I caught him when he called. Thankfully once I explained to him that I was NOT in the market for property in FL and had no idea why he was given my number he apologized and stopped calling.

        July 20, 2012 at 12:50

        • I’m glad you didn’t end up some marketing list for vacation properties, lol.

          July 23, 2012 at 20:02

  3. I don’t answer unless I see a name. If it’s some random number or–worse–unlisted, I’ll let it go to voicemail. I have a few folks who call who I’d rather not speak to anymore. And I’ve got someone in particular who calls from different numbers to try and trip me up. I figure if it’s my boss or someone from work, they’ll leave a voicemail. No voicemail, no call back.

    July 19, 2012 at 15:11

    • Thank you! So I’m not the only one who isn’t a fan of calls from folks I don’t know. Since I’m not fielding calls for work, announce yourself. That’s all I’m saying.

      July 19, 2012 at 21:33