Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

A Grown Up House Party, I Think

So, I’ve gone all the way out of my comfort zone and agreed to hang out with a co-worker this weekend. This is the girl I mentioned in two previous posts. She is the one dating a man who doesn’t play games. She had a refreshing story and a follow-up to that story that I simply had to share.

When she’s not enjoying the affections of a man who is coming correct, she spends a lot of time with her friends. A good number of her friends have married; she’s one of the last single girls. I wonder if she’s invited me along to hang with her friends this weekend because I’m married so I won’t throw off the balance of the group.

Every time I hang out with a new friend, I feel like I’m on a date. Most of my dates recently have been double dates. The husband and I are like each other’s wingman as we see if the couple across the table is compatible with us. But I’ll be doing this one on my own without my wingman.

The plan is to go out for drinks and possibly appetizers. Next stop is a house party at one of her friend’s house. Apparently they just moved in, but this is not a housewarming, it’s a house party. Occasionally, I like meeting new people, so I’m looking forward to it.

I figure best case scenario, I’ll find some new couples for the husband and I to date. Worst case scenario, they’ll make me feel completely out-of-place because I’m about five years younger than most of them and haven’t been part of this group of friends for years.

I doubt she would’ve invited to me to this party if the worst case scenario was possible. What’s most likely is that in order to have a real house party, you need random fun new blood there. I”m totally random being a friend from work in a different age box. I’m sometimes fun (can’t say I was much fun at those two weddings I went to last weekend). And I’m definitely new blood.

Even though these people will probably know some people I know, I doubt I’ll see anyone I actually know. I’m just sort of used to meeting random people at a party who have either 1) seen the husband play or know him somehow, 2) knew my brother from hanging out with him before or after he became a minister, or 3) been in my mother’s courtroom. Yup, musician, minister, and judge for family members reduces degrees of separation like you wouldn’t believe.

I can’t figure out why I’m looking forward to this party so much that I had to write an ahead-of-time blog post about it. Perhaps because it’s the first uniquely new activity I’ve done in such a long time. I can’t remember the last time I went to a random ass house party. Likely it was back in 2007, right before I graduated college.  No wait, it was in 2008 for Halloween in med school.

I’m interested to see how grown ass people do a house party. As in, people who are over 30, done with being full-time students and have a full-time job, married with children, but still (reportedly) know how to have a good time.

And then when I’m done, I’ll gladly take my butt back home and climb into bed with the husband. I have to admit that this being an adult this is really working for me so far.

Go optimism.

6 responses

  1. This date experience might just be a good thing as it gives you as sense of dating again.Twisted irony it’s not the worst thing.
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    August 10, 2012 at 08:01

  2. silverneurotic

    Yeah, I don’t think I’d be comfortable there. Just not very social so I’d probably stand in the corner. Actually this weekend is going to be a struggle between a rehearsal dinner and a wedding/reception tomorrow.

    August 10, 2012 at 12:29

    • The only rehearsal dinner I’ve ever been to is my own. I don’t even know how to be in that situation. Good luck.

      August 11, 2012 at 07:36

  3. serenityluv1

    I get excited just to get out of the house and I am Single. I think you will have fun. Dating & socializing is good for married folks.

    August 11, 2012 at 06:42

    • I agree. We do spend a good amount of time with our existing friends. This is just my first time in a long time hanging out with people who I don’t know who I’m metting through someone other than the husband.

      August 11, 2012 at 07:38

      • serenityluv1

        Oh I understand that feeling.

        August 11, 2012 at 19:19