Musings of a Chicago-Born New Yorker

Working On My Optimism

I’ve stepped behind the veil y’all. I see people in a different light than I used to. Which people you ask? I’m not talking about the husband, my friends, or my family. They’re all as crazy and lovable as ever. I’m talking about co-workers.

I’ve always described my office as a lovely place to work because everyone is so nice, good-looking, and smart. I like to have pretty and sense everywhere I look and I get that here at work. That makes life easier when you deal with death 12 hours a day, you know?

Since becoming supervisor, I’ve dealt with a lot of revealing facts. People who always seemed so nice are turning into ogres. Dealing with my own inadequacies as a supervisor hasn’t been easy either. I’m certain the person in particular I’m thinking of would also describe me as a monster. Neither of us are monsters; we just want what’s best from our perspective, and our perspectives don’t always line up.

It’s so unfortunate that you can never really replace office politics with warm fuzzy never-ending understanding. I think I’m waking up from my fatigue earlier in the week though because I’m feeling optimistic again. I feel like I have the support of my management and most of my staff. With that support, I feel like we can accomplish anything and make any compromise work.

I’ll probably feel the exact opposite this time next week.

It’s just hard to not get invested emotionally in the situations, you know? I want things to go well. I’m acutely feeling  how the decisions and compromises I make affect the morale and career of my staff. I feel anxiety when I think of it. It helps that no one’s entire career is in my hands. If I stay on the management track, I’ll clearly have to work on being alright with it. But that’s a problem for another day.

I don’t know where my career is going to take me, but I hope it takes me somewhere near where I am now. I like being involved in decisions big and small. I love being on hand to implement new processes. And I really like being in charge of giving what is most likely the fairest evaluations people will ever receive.

I’m all about the numbers and targets set. I don’t let my personal opinions shadow performance. I do let my observations of work color it. And nothing that shows up in my evaluations is news to the person being evaluated because we have monthly status meetings. If I’m ever in charge of developing an evaluation system, it will grow from the way my job does things now.

Now I feel like I’m talking about work too much. But I just wanted to get something down because I’m feeling pretty strongly about it. I love my job and I feel like I’m rising to the challenge of taking off the rose-colored glasses. At the very least, I’m soaking every moment up and trying to learn as much as possible.

And maybe, just maybe, I’ll learn something real about being a supervisor. If I’m in charge of people, I will be damn good at it.

5 responses

  1. It’s a blessing to love your place of work and what you do. Unfortunately, I don’t love my job. However, I am grateful to God for it. I know that there is something better out there for me. I really want to go back to school. Timing is everything so I’m not rushing it. Just waiting to hear from The Lord on what to do. I’m sure you’ll continue to grow in leadership and many doors will open for you. 🙂

    March 23, 2013 at 23:19

    • Thanks! And I know how hard it can be to find the right time to go back to school. I want to get my Master’s soon, but I can’t even begin to imagine when I’ll actually be able to make that happen.

      March 28, 2013 at 22:21

  2. This reading is too funny. Except for the hubby having a work wife. (Homie don’t play that!) LOL I think you should probably just stay home and get plenty of rest and fluids. As I’m reading, all I can think about are the movies The Planet of the Apes or Outbreak!! Thanks for the laugh. Hope you’re feeling better! 🙂

    March 23, 2013 at 23:29

    • Glad I made you laugh. His work wife is cool. Someone has to take care of him when he has gigs at her club that I can’t go to. Now if we move and someone else tries to take her place, there will be a thorough interview process and some subtle intimidation first, lol.

      March 28, 2013 at 22:22

      • LOL. I feel ya! And as long as you’re cool that’s all that matters. I apologize for posting that comment on the wrong blog. Idk how that happened. 🙂

        March 28, 2013 at 22:24